Making the Best Out of Things

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When you or a loved one have gotten a difficult diagnosis of; cancer, a long-term chronic illness, or a long-term disability, entire lives are changed. Suddenly, you are a patient or the care-giver of a patient.

Every aspect of your life and everyone that lives in your house-hold has to be totally rearranged. Especially, if you have taken on the role as care-giver or depending on someone else to take care of you.

Transportation and finances are at the for-front of your daily/weekly priority list. An entire morning, half of a work day, or all day can be consumed taking care of  doctor’s appointments, physical therapy sessions, filling expensive prescriptions, and going through sometimes grueling sessions of medical treatment.

I am not going to forget to include, the ‘oh so frustrating’ battles with health insurance. Sending letters or making calls to your health insurance company to determine if they are even, going to cover certain medical bills. Or the monthly budget debates that have to be made, on how much each doctor’s office / hospital will get paid on which month (maybe that is just my personal experience with medical bills, I’m just saying!)

Now, I haven’t even touched on the emotional and physiological side of trying to cope with an illness. Especially if chronic pain, events from a traumatic accident, a missing limb, or being paralyzed is one of the difficult burdens that have to be bared. You or the person you are dealing with can be: cranky, mean, short-tempered, difficult, and angry all of the time.

Or on the flip side; sadness, depression, and the desire to be alone and being withdrawn from the world can take over. Trust me, I have experienced these two scenarios many times from two different perspectives, over the years. First, from my own perspective, by fighting to manage my own difficult chronic illnesses. Secondly, by helping to take care both of my parents.

Instead of focusing on your unfair reality and allowing the feelings of being; trapped, miserable, feeling over-burdened and dread. Making a conscious effort to ‘make the best out of things’ could help. I have found that, talking about your struggles to trusted friends, a support group, spiritual advisor, or a health professional will help you to release some of those frustrated feelings. Praying, volunteering, and helping others can help, also.

There is a website I have recently discovered, called How To Cope With Pain Blog at  www.howtocopewithpain.org, whose most recent blog posts focus on giving you methods and solutions in increasing your happiness by: Focusing On The Positive, Noticing What Makes You Happy, and their most recent installment of posts on Increase Your Happiness.

To summarize, today’s post on Increase Your Happiness: Pleasure, defines pleasure, as positive, enjoyable experiences. Pleasures create immediate happiness and enjoyment. Many pleasurable experiences are associate with basic biological drives, such as eating, exercise, and sex.

They say that Authentic Happiness looks at 3 levels of pleasures:
  1. Hi pleasure: causes emotions such as thrill and elation
  2. Moderate pleasure: causes emotions such as spark, glee, fun
  3. Low pleasures: causes emotions such as comfort, harmony and relaxation

We are usually aware of what brings us pleasure. I love walking in the wood, a bowl of chocolate ice cream, and a funny TV show.

Furthermore, the article challenges you by giving you an assignment: to add in a pleasure each day. To schedule something specific to be sure you have at least 1 thing everyday. They also invite you to go to their website and share your pleasure in the comments so they can all learn.

This advice can be used for the patient or the care-giver. Sometimes by making the best out of things, in a bad or difficult situation is about all that is left to do. In order to move forward, keep your spirits up, and to gaze hopefully into the future.

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In times when I am feeling discouraged and am trying to make the best out of things, praying the serenity prayer, is what helps me keep my hope alive. I hope you will follow this advice to help you, in your effort of making the best out of things.
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2 thoughts on “Making the Best Out of Things

    • poetangel1 says:

      Thank you, Phoebe for the wonderful complement and for checking out my blog. It’s very nice to meet you too. I am going to check your blog out and I wish you the best with your blog as well.

      Blessings,
      Phoebe

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